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Being in a relationship, any relationship can be blissful and grounding at best.
Let’s be honest, when we hit a bump in the relationship road, it can ruin our day or more…

It is not IF we will have issues come up it is WHEN they arise and and HOW we navigate this sensitive terrain.

To celebrate love and couples everywhere, I decided to share this Couples Clearing ritual with you.

This Couples Clearing ritual can help foster deeper communication and intimacy and help you celebrate being a happy and healthy couple.

John Gottman, who could predict if a couple will stay together or divorce with an eerie accuracy says

“The secret to love is just kindness.”

Below are six questions to ask your partner.
Ask the question, then listen. Then switch.

Remember to be generous and kind.
It may feel a little formulaic, but this isn’t the time to actually respond, just take in the information and thank them then switch.

1. Is there anything that I have said or done this week that has created trust between us?
Then listen…
after your partner shares what they have to say, thank them and switch.

2. Is there anything that I have said or done this week, that has created distrust or distance between us?
after your partner shares what they have to say, thank them and switch.

3. Give (and receive) appreciations, this is where we share our appreciations for each other.
“I appreciate you for_______”
after your partner shares what they have to say, thank them and switch.

4. I’d like to be appreciated for_____
after your partner shares what they have to say, thank them and switch.

5. Is there something that you would like more of from me?
Thank them then switch.
6. Is there something that you would like less of from me?
Thank them then switch.

When you are finished, thank each other.
Let me know how the ritual was for you and your partner.

I walk you through the process in the video below:

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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About Darci Frankel - Darci is Managing Owner of Hanalei Day Spa and and Ayurvedic specialist and creator of the Serious Cleanse Method, with over 30 years of clinical experience helping people identify and correct the root causes of imbalance. She is known for her ability to connect complex symptoms into clear patterns—guiding clients to restore energy, improve digestion, balance hormones, and reduce toxic load through personalized, practical strategies. Darci is the owner of Hanalei Day Spa on Kauai’s North Shore, where she has spent decades refining her approach to cleansing, healing, and long-term wellness. She lives on Kauai with her husband and continues to share her work with clients locally and worldwide.

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2 thoughts

  1. He is not the only person alive not on Facebook.
    Can’t wait to return to Hanalei Day Spa!

    1. Hiya Annette! Just checking to see my Luddites out there! Happy you chimed up. We are excited to see you on your next visit too!
      With warm aloha,
      Darci

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